If you’re going to give clients, co-workers, and bosses the benefit of the doubt, that’s fine, but just make sure that they’re giving you that generosity as well. It’s great to extend trust to others, but remember that while they should both be accurate descriptors of others, “trusted” and “trust-worthy” […]
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Clarity and Kindness
There is a quote about feedback by Dr. Brene Brown: “Clear is kind.” It’s definitely true that by being clear about what problems you’re seeing, or how others might improve, you’re being kind in the way that you’re giving others the gift of a path towards improvement. This, however, doesn’t […]
When Did You Last Feel Trust?
When was the last time that you felt like there was trust? If it was recently, then great! If it wasn’t, then what are you doing to change that? PS – If you’re looking to build more trust but don’t know the concrete ways to start, perhaps this might interest […]
Rewarding the Messenger
We often hear the phrase “Don’t shoot the messenger” and I feel like it’s not enough. While it’s true that many people are terrible at this in practice, we need to push for a culture where the harbinger of bad news is actually rewarded. After all, they’re the ones courageous […]
Pass Mustard
You may have thought the term “to pass mustard” was “to pass muster.” After all, muster refers to a military roll call, so it’s a common misconception that to “pass muster” means to meet or exceed a particular standard. However, the term “to pass mustard” actually comes from ancient Roman […]
Don’t Ask Questions When You’ve Made Up Your Mind
If you’re at the top, decisions, ultimately, are up to you. Even if you’re leading a committee, or asking for feedback, if you can reject or approve a decision, at the end it’s up to you. You can go about owning the fact that you’re the end of the line […]
Catwoman’s Iconic Costume
The seams of clothing literally are what holds your garment together. Without them, your only option would be a cape-like piece of cloth you’d wrap around yourself. You can choose to hide the seams as much as you can, or you could do things to accentuate the seams, like choosing […]
Watch What You Say, Traitor!
We often throw around words like “traitor” and “betrayal” when someone does something to betray us. We often feel like their disloyalty is upsetting. But how often do we ask if we’re being loyal to them? Loyalty is actually a two-way street, a relationship that must be nurtured and fostered […]
Are you a jackass?
The problem with asking yourself “Am I a jackass?” is that in terms of your likeability and reputation, it doesn’t matter what the answer to the question is. In these contexts, the only thing that matters is whether or not other people think you’re a jackass or not.
I’m Grateful For Your Contribution
Celebrate the accomplishments of others. Make your team the hero. Accept praise humbly, and don’t deflect it, but make sure you’re constantly celebrating others. Have some downtime? Message people and let them know you appreciate what they’ve done. Thank them for their contribution. Shout-out others in private AND in public. […]