When doing something new, difficult, and/or very public, it’s easy to get discouraged. To let the voice saying “You’re not enough” convince you that it’s true. To let the fear talk you into playing it safe. To hide. To keep that magic that’s inside you locked away. Or, you can […]
Category: impostor syndrome
Are You Ready to RUMMMMBBBBLEEEE?
I used to think that when someone finally gave me a chance, I’d be ready to step onto the big stage. Play with the big dogs. Smash it out of the park with everyone watching. Foolishly, I’d quietly wait to be chosen, to wait until someone could see past the […]
Justification as Self Doubt
When we’re confident in our decisions, actions, or speech, we don’t need to tell ourselves that we did well. We know that everything makes sense and we don’t give it a second thought. When we over explain our decisions, actions, or speech to others, and we have that need to […]
Justification as Self Doubt
When we’re confident in our decisions, actions, or speech, we don’t need to tell ourselves that we did well. We know that everything makes sense and we don’t give it a second thought. When we over explain our decisions, actions, or speech to others, and we have that need to […]
Naming the Monster
It’s said that in old maps, when cartographers would come across uncharted territory, they would write “Here be monsters” or something to that tune, to highlight the fear of the uncertainty and the likelihood that in those days explorers would tend to meet grisly ends. While the likelihood of this […]
Do You Really Not Know?
I was pondering a business problem the other day, and my co-founder told me “I think we know what we need to do, it’s just a matter of doing it.” She was 100% right. So much of what gets in our way of success is not the lack of knowledge, […]
Impostor
When I first started coaching people, I felt like a huge impostor. This feeling didn’t go away, especially when the first question I was asked in a group coaching call was “How long have you been a coach?” and the answer was “This is my first time.” Fortunately my co-coach […]
Or….
“I have to choose between these options” or “These are my options right now.” “I’m stuck” or “I’m feeling stuck and I’m curious as to what’s blocking me.” “So what? I don’t care” or “So what? Are you going to let that stop you?” “I’ve always screwed it up” or […]
The Great Equalizer
People try to exert status in all sorts of ways. Having their admin bring you coffee. Driving a sports car. Accessorizing with designer watches and handbags. Lifting tons of weight at the gym. Casually mentioning the Amazon best-seller book they wrote. Even if they’re smarter, more conventionally attractive, wealthier, more […]
How Will You Show Up Today?
At the top of my computer monitor, on a piece of white artist’s tape, I’ve written “How will you show up today?” It’s a reminder that everything I do is a choice. I can choose to slack off, or work with focus and intention. I can choose to show up […]