When we’re confident in our decisions, actions, or speech, we don’t need to tell ourselves that we did well. We know that everything makes sense and we don’t give it a second thought.

When we over explain our decisions, actions, or speech to others, and we have that need to get them to understand us and agree with our justification, that means we’re really lacking the trust in oneself and we’re seeking validation.

It’s fine to seek validation and approval, but when we do it too often we undermine our credibility, and end up eroding the trust others have in us.