When we think about who we are, it’s tempting to focus on what we see in our mind’s eye. But there’s the danger of distortion, or minimizing or maximizing what we perceive to be flaws or weaknesses. Whether it’s focusing on where we think ourselves lacking, or puffing up to […]
Category: change
Sunny Vs Rainy Days
Growing up, pop culture always told me that sunny days were better than rainy ones. But in a world dealing with massive global warming, I wonder if we’ll soon have songs talking about that magical rainy day, as opposed to celebrating the sun shining brightly. Just as command-style leadership is […]
Challenges or Excuses
We all have our own barriers and disadvantages in life that prevent us from achieving something. They could be largely societal, like being a Black woman start-up founder trying to find funding from traditional VCs, or personal, like growing up poor in a single-parent household.They could be things like trying […]
I Don’t Know Much
I don’t really know much. Honestly, I feel like there is still so much out there and I find myself ever curious to know more, to learn from others, to try new things. Even though I might know a good amount about culture design, education, monsters, art, creativity, leadership, and […]
Changing Other People
When I’m asked what super power I would want, I often think about mind control. That way, I could be a benevolent* dictator and mind whammy people into world peace and acceptance and understanding. But the reality is that no one can change other people. All we can do is […]
Armor Shielding
When you’re preparing for a voyage to someplace where you cannot change the circumstances, like the intense pressures of being on the ocean floor, or the need for air and the lack of gravity in space, you need to adapt. Whether that’s building space suits, or submarines capable of withstanding tremendous […]
Freedom
Today’s a big day in the United States, so if you hear an extra bunch of people shouting about Freedom you know what’s going on. It’s interesting how often when we think about the concept of freedom, we think about freedom for ourselves. To do, think, and say what we […]
Fixing Others
Often, I find the impulse to try and “fix” other people. And “fixing” others usually is shorthand for getting them to behave or think in a way that I agree with. Interestingly enough, the quickest way to get others to agree with you is to fix yourself, so that your […]
Judo of Constraints
I never really got into martial arts as a kid for a few reasons – the first is that my primary interest in martial arts was learning how to be a ninja, and the second is that I hated the rigors and discipline that is the basis of martial arts. […]
Cruise Control
Cruise control (and more recently, auto-pilot) are great options when your primary goal is to maintain the status quo. You’re on a long stretch of highway and want to maintain a certain speed, or you’re looking to maintain a specific route. But when there’s lots of uncertainty, or missing lane […]