So I talked about the need to be right and expecting empathy back earlier. The 3rd Barrier to Empathy is: 3. Expecting Change Right Away (Or At All) Like I said earlier, the toughest part about trying to become more empathetic (especially when trying to become more empathetic to drive […]
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Friendly With Fear
We all want to feel less scared. We all want to have more confidence, to be fearless, and to believe in ourselves. We want to feel validated, and protected, and safe. The thing is, you’re never going to be fearless. You’re never going to completely get rid of self-doubt, and […]
Dealing with Rejection
It’s easy for us to judge ourselves when people reject us. Whether it’s not buying our product, to someone making a snide comment about your hair or outfit, to being laid off, when we’re told “No,” it can feel devastating. Believe me, I get the pain. I had a pretty […]
Leadership
I think that most people can get a group of people to a goal if necessary. You can bribe, shout, punish, cajole, deceive, or seduce your way to a short term goal. I don’t think that makes you an effective leader, however, as you’re not really leading anyone, you’re just […]
Falling Behind, Catching Up
Guh, so I skipped four days of posting. I realize that I have a very distinct choice. One voice in my head is chastising me for messing up. It’s telling me that I need to be a professional. That true writers and thought leaders don’t let things get in the […]
Limnic eruptions
Today I was reading about limnic eruptions. These are huge CO2 eruptions that displace air and can kill people and animals, suffocating them within minutes of the eruption. Interestingly enough, these occur from lakes. That’s right, lakes. If a lake is meromictic, meaning it doesn’t naturally mix itself, it can […]
V Day
Happy V Day, everyone. I’m sure we all have the same picture in our head of what a display of love means. It’s probably a big gesture, with large bouquets of roses, fancy dinners, gifts, and then maybe a theater performance to watch after. Valentine’s Day is a social creation […]
Posture
It’s hard to be empathetic with customers who are wrong. They blame you for not sending you information (that you sent), or are acting on assumptions with emails tell them otherwise (that they didn’t fully read). They get angry because a product isn’t working correctly, when the actual issue is […]
How can we better express anger?
After watching True Detective Season 2, I can’t help but think about a defining moment for one of the main characters, Ray Velcoro. If you watch episode 1, I’m not spoiling anything, but as the audience we find out that Ray’s partner had been raped, and Ray goes out to […]
Multiple Truths
If you’re at all concerned with self-improvement, or if you’ve ever tried to look up how to do anything on the internet, there is tons of conflicting advice out there. Who is right? The biggest trouble with seeking advice, is that (most) everyone is well-meaning. They talk about what they […]