When a leader is giving you negative feedback, and they start making it personal and/or start shouting, remember that it’s more about them than it is about you. The things that frustrate us most remind us of our own sore spots and weaknesses. While, yes, you probably should have double-checked […]
Category: resilience
“Overnight” Success
For anyone who needs to hear it: things take time to build. Remember that all of the 1-minute timelapse “tutorials,” TEDTalks, highlight reels, and “overnight” success are all the result of much longer amounts of time than you might think. Jerry Seinfield rehearsed his five minute stand-up bit 200 times […]
I Was Wrong
People seem to have an allergic reaction to saying “I was wrong.” Well, I was wrong thinking Bitcoin would never go over $10k. I was wrong about when I thought the COVID vaccines wouldn’t be available in the US until July. I was wrong about thinking I would have kids […]
The Good for the Great
There’s the old saying, “Sometimes you have to give up the good for the great.” I disagree. Mainly, I disagree as you won’t ever know if you gave up the good for the great. This is completely speculative. Once you make a decision, you have selected one path from another. […]
May Day
Happy May Day. The need for labor laws and unions grew from the Industrial Revolution, where we saw people as mere meat-based cogs in a machine that was designed to grind them up as collateral damage in the pursuit of profit. While this has never been a smart way of […]
Food In Your Teeth
We often don’t know when we’ve got food stuck in our teeth as we’re too close to it. Our nerves rapidly acclimate to a piece of spinach stuck next to your gums and you might not notice it. Just as we often miss this, often the answer to our problems […]
Stale Crackers
When you find a box of stale crackers, you might be tempted to either a) be like me and just eat the stale crackers, or b) throw them out. Often we look at a lot of our decisions as binary, in terms of the two most obvious solutions or actions. […]
Self-Improvement Toxicity
I believe in personal development and self-improvement. I also believe that you’re enough as you are. These might seem to contradict themselves, but I believe that positive self-improvement is where you’re embracing yourself as a worthy, amazing human being, and looking to grow and optimize your skill sets, mindsets, and […]
Numbed Out
It’s easy to get numb to certain things. Repeated exposure to things can be a great thing. Facing your fears and uncomfortable situations repeatedly reduces fear levels and one acclimates. Repeated tasks are the basis of habit formation, and consistency in words, actions, and both over time builds trust. However, […]
Ease vs Grit
If you’re like me, you’ve probably heard of the virtues of grit. The power with sticking things through until the end, even when they get difficult. I agree with this, but I also think that we often don’t pay enough attention to ease. Grit is necessary to survive and prosper […]