I was pondering a business problem the other day, and my co-founder told me “I think we know what we need to do, it’s just a matter of doing it.” She was 100% right. So much of what gets in our way of success is not the lack of knowledge, […]
Category: resilience
Perfection
This one is for all the perfectionists out there. It’s easy to try and fight for that last 5% to make something “perfect.” but the benefit of this last 5% often is outweighed by the cost of it. Internalizing this can be difficult for a few reasons. As the world […]
Challenges or Excuses
We all have our own barriers and disadvantages in life that prevent us from achieving something. They could be largely societal, like being a Black woman start-up founder trying to find funding from traditional VCs, or personal, like growing up poor in a single-parent household.They could be things like trying […]
Toxic Fandom
If you spend any time on the internet, you will not be surprised to know that there are groups of toxic fans. These fans think that any critique of whatever they are fans of is heresy, and that anything that might be competition is terrible. What these fans don’t realize […]
Be Better
The interesting thing about the quest to be better is that it’s a quest without an end. Better is always in relation to something else, so the context matters a great deal. And if you’re always looking to be better than you are, then even when you achieve the state […]
Feeding the Birds
We recently started putting out a bit of bird feed in our backyard to try and attract more birds. Intending to replenish a day’s worth of feed in our homemade bird feeder, I ended up spilling a bunch of seeds onto the ground. What initially might look like a mistake […]
Or….
“I have to choose between these options” or “These are my options right now.” “I’m stuck” or “I’m feeling stuck and I’m curious as to what’s blocking me.” “So what? I don’t care” or “So what? Are you going to let that stop you?” “I’ve always screwed it up” or […]
The Void vs The Arena
Publishing your work can feel like shouting into the void. Thus, it’s tempting to mold yourself into something that you know will grab attention. “Let’s make it controversial.” “Sex sells, right?” “Well the new trend is X, so let’s try that.” Sure, that might work temporarily, but what happens when […]
Pit Stops on the Rainbow
What’s at the end of the rainbow for you? Money? Fame? Love? A gaping hole of always wanting more? The tricky thing with having an idealized goal in mind is that you’ll never know if you’ll achieve it until you do, as every other moment until then is less than. But […]
Playing Big, Playing Small
If you’re into personal development like I am, chances are you’re constantly being challenged to play the biggest game that you can. Meaning that you’re looking to do more, level up, scale, etc. While I’ll never encourage anyone to play small, I want to remind you that terms like “big” […]