If your response to a question is “I’m not getting defensive,” then you most certainly are.
If you feel the need to say “I’ve already learned about soft skills, I don’t need to practice it,” you most certainly have not practiced it enough.
If you say “I’m not racist, BUT..” you might not be racist, but you are about to say something that is.
If you tell someone “They’re not punk enough,” YOU are not punk enough.
Generalizations should not be taken to be true in 100% of all cases, but as guidelines and starting places to consider when thinking about how we might learn and grow from our past experiences and behaviors.